watch the fat guy version of this video—where it’s a skinny guy turned fat and the girls meet up with him. it goes SO DIFFERENT. they actually talk about things other than his weight, and he even gets kissed.
go and look at the opposite video on youtube then look at the comments. Even though the women are clearly nicer and less judging than the men they still try to justify the men’s reactions and put down the women. It’s kind of disgusting actually. It’s one of those things that makes you sad that you live in this society.
"it makes me so sad to lie in a society where you can’t get sex or a free male out of a man you’ve lied to on the internet"
The experiment is actually a sham.
The ‘fat guy’ is an admitted dating expert. As in, he has a goddamn youtube channel. He knows how to date, he knows how to engage somebody and he knows immediately how to keep somebody sticking around. The woman? Not so much.
Look at the two videos. The woman literally talks about herself, doesn’t even attempt to engage the guy and doesn’t try to make him interested in her as a person. Like, when the girls call the guy out on being fat, guess what? He says “Yeah, it is an old photo, about 3 or 3 years”, she says “Oh, maybe 6 months” and CONSTANTLY tries to underplay it like she’s being cute.
The guy at least owned the fact that he was fat. The girl sat there was did pretty much everything to deflect. The guy did his best to put his dates at ease, when at the start you could see they were shocked and a bit put off. The girl didn’t, she deflected, made excuses, put the blame on the guy, and guess what? That doesn’t make somebody want to sit down and continue the date. It only makes them more agitated.
If anything, this highlights exactly what the problem is with hetero dating. uys are expected to be everything they can, to take the reigns, to lead the date by being engaging and funny. The girl doesn’t and is expected to sit there and be cute. Guess what? When all you’re expected to do is sit there and be entertained by your date, your date isn’t going to be fucking happy when you show up not looking like your profile.
Maybe if the girl actually, I dunno, acknowledged she was fat, didn’t try to shift blame, didn’t try to be ‘cute’ and tried to actually engage the guy, it might’ve worked.
And here’s the thing. Not only is this experiment massively biased, the fucking odds aren’t that bad either. Four men and four women. 4/4 women stayed, 1/4 men stayed. Guess what? With that margin of error you could’ve just had 4 nice women and 3 asshole guys. Hell, for all we know, they specifically selected women who listed “okay with fat guys” on their Tindr and picked men who listed “no fat women” on theirs.
As somebody who is actually taking courses on research, this is a goddamn travesty of a ‘social experiment’.